Making a first phone call to talk or set up a date can be replaced with text messages, but if you must call, be short and polite. Make the first phone call confidently with dating advice from a female dating coach in this free video on dating tips for guys. Expert: Jessica Claire Contact: www.newyorkdatingcoach.com Bio: Jessica Claire is the host of her own midnight hour talk radio show, where she gives advice on dating. Filmmaker: Paul Muller
Jattpride1987 @ 5:57 am
i hope that helps very well
axedrecista @ 6:34 am
The best way to leave a mesage is:
“Hi Jane this is Todd, i would like to fornicate with you, call me back”
TheLoneIdealist @ 6:46 am
You bastard,sexist >:O
949skate @ 7:44 am
yea
LosAngelesWriter @ 8:01 am
Horrible advice, make her call you. Text her. That’s it.
FutureLaugh @ 8:42 am
Hi Jane, this is Todd. I have no social intelligence to hold a conversation. I was calling you to discuss the time and place to share intercourse. I look forward to it, good bye to you.
Chipwhitley274 @ 9:32 am
Calling her the same day you hung out is normal among typical relationships. It does not seem needy because you are not making the conversation about going on a date, and it shows confidence because everyone else in the world has some strict plan to wait so many days before calling, but you are casual and carefree, you call her on a whim to talk about nothing. Like you would a buddy. This creates the perception that you’re a normal, regular part of her life, and eventually it becomes reality.
Chipwhitley274 @ 9:47 am
After you get her number, then you call her later that day/night and have a short chat. Maybe about something you talked or joked about earlier then you let her go. Call her in a couple of days and do the same. Have a light chat then let her go. This way you don’t seem needy, so you don’t look like all you are doing is trying to reach the goal of a date.
Chipwhitley274 @ 10:20 am
Think of it like building a bridge. Seed Future plans in conversations so you have a bridge over the gap of time you are not together. Try not to call later to make plans, as that’s like building the bridge while on it, and if the bridge cannot be finished with concrete plans, then you fall in to the river and fail. When you have plans and intentions to do something in the future, that makes the phone number seem incidental not the goal.
Chipwhitley274 @ 10:34 am
However most dating coaches don’t study the psychology involved with behaving naturally and normally. You want to immediately make her feel like you are used to talking like you have talked many times before, as if you are interacting with someone you know and are comfortable with. That way it gets the awkwardness out of the way. I am not talking about a long in-depth conversation, I am talking about a light short chat like normal friends or gf/bf relationships have.
Mystefier @ 11:17 am
@Chipwhitley274 Hi Chipwhitley, She was giving good advice. Her advice is the same as what the male dating couches say. I’ll elaborate. Other couches also say you should keep the phone call short and to the point. The purpose of the call is to set up the date. Save the long chatting for the date. Long phone chatting when you first meet her can make you seem needy. As for “when to call” many couches recommend about 3 days after getting number.
Chipwhitley274 @ 11:45 am
“they’re all about data they’re not about emotion.”
“Generally women like to talk about emotion”
“So keep it to the data.”
She basically said “Because women like it when you do this… you then do the opposite.”.
Chipwhitley274 @ 12:12 pm
The main problem with this “advice” is that there isn’t any advice on how to make the first call. Like when to make the first call, and how to have a casual and natural conversation. She just says “because I don’t actually want to teach you what to do, I want you to just make it as business like as possible. Make an appointment and end the call”
thesparitan @ 12:46 pm
yeah this video is bullshit
shechshire @ 12:53 pm
@thesparitan I didn’t say I care. I’m just trying to point out this videos bullshit
thesparitan @ 1:29 pm
hey dude if it works then why the hell do you care what i say lol. if it works thats all you need to know. when it stops working then try something new. but if you feel good doing your own thing and thats what the ladies want then have at it hoss.
shechshire @ 1:31 pm
@thesparitan watever, you can call it lazy and boring. bottom line is that IT WORKS ok.
shechshire @ 1:44 pm
@thesparitan i have… I think it’s a wast of time. and another thing, this “seduction” isn’t going to work on someone your going to see once in our life.
thesparitan @ 2:42 pm
when I said morons I was being facetious. But now I have to take umbrage with the rest of your philosophy. First of all telling someone exactly how you feel is boring, lazy, and worst of all wont work. How to you expect to seduce a women with the unexceptional. The point of what you call games is in a sense to play with emotions and to make the experience last. Nothing easy is worth anything. A easy seduction is a useless one. try it sometime and see if you dont like it.
shechshire @ 2:56 pm
@thesparitan I didn’t say woman cant’ learn. The reason isn’t that men are morons(btw that’s just silly and ignorant) the reason is because most if not all of the work rest on OUR backs. So, obviously if you on’t know what to do you will fail in most cases. Again, my point is that all these stupid rules are just bullshit. If I like someone I let them know. If they don’t like me, fine that cool too. my point is that all these stupid rules revolve around them
thesparitan @ 3:48 pm
actually that is wrong, women can learn a get deal to about dating. the only reason there is some much more help for men and more need, is because we men are morons. i find many women that can be so much more if they would just know what to do. i hate girls that come on to fast and to strong. i like to be seduced and know most men do to. and its best to do it in subtle ways. but usually men are behind the curve more often then women.
8Julius8 @ 3:58 pm
thats another way of looking at it… XD lol
shechshire @ 4:29 pm
@Attila709 atilla… the hun
shechshire @ 4:37 pm
Funny how there’s this entire industry for dating tips for men and yet for woman it’s just maybe a two perogragh forum on the web made by god knows who. Shows how much of the dating scene revolves around woman and just how complicated and nit picky they all are.
gearsofwar2318 @ 4:39 pm
lol that comment was funny as fuck dude… thumbs up, high five, dog…. lol.. j/k… funny comment though. It made me laugh and it sounds like something I would say if I was drunk. lmao.